Seeking freedom from co-dependency? 

Rights Of Relational "Bill" 

"Declaration of Interdependence" 

I have the right to: 
• Feel respected as a person. 
• not be taken lightly and discretion. 
• Effective communication with others. 
• There are limits and I have respect for privacy. 
• For a raised or not downed. 
• Feel better myself and my relationships. 
• Those who rely on the verification of my friends to wait for support. 
• to grow both inside and outside relationships. 
Their separate opinions, thoughts, feelings, and • for elections. 
• Choose to stay or leave any relationship. 

A while ago I published it and recommended it to find people who struggle with co-dependency issues. I have edited it more universal common version. This concept is the core part of the constitution, manipulators (FOG's not Fear, Obligation, or guilt), together with you to your own needs met. Niether do you want them to others as they would use them enough to make music on FOG. 

Their ideas about a healthy relationship, I mean I think the result of the following behaviors as expressions. 

Ten Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People 

1. Not label their emotions, labeling people or situations. 
2. Distinguish between emotions and thoughts. 
3. Take responsibility for their feelings. 
4. using emotions to help them make informed decisions. (Inleme!) 
5. We respect the feelings of other people's shows. 
6. I'm feeling energetic, not angry. 
7. Validate their feelings of other people. 
8. Practical value of negative emotions get a positive. 
9. Command and control are proposed, to criticize or judge others, do not teach. 
10. , Or how many people do not respect the feelings invalid. 

While some of these simple, those of us who were damaged or had children often miss out on this course or you have to learn them as yet been neglected. 

What I found particularly useful in the meantime, there are numerous books kluged classic "Free Co Dependency Trap" Of Breaking By Barry & Jana Weinhold. Concepts that can be healed and restored, most co-dependent behavior was saved messages rescue kidnapped in publications. 
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Sunday, July 5, 2009 

Depression 

In Celebrate Recovery groups that joined last Friday, I'm depressed over my "sobriety" shared about. Those who struggle with being with me a tremendous amount of affection there. This frightening and debilitating that can be cruel. Not only have many people struggling with depression and to better express their feelings of happiness tend to need. But in my experience, in fact, that the exact opposite, a suppressed anger often is a source of depression.

Aliens and those who feel frustrated by the struggle that lay about disability confused. (What can be done to them is another article.) 

I hate the cruel assimilation as a form of depression, I see. That so often leads to suicide. 

Depression, recovery from addiction often a "side effect" is. In other words, "no matter what you choose is a drug high, leaving (yes workahol, obsessive-compulsive behavior control, and even church activities" drugs "could be in the list.)" Will leave you with the reality of the low. This, take some time to learn to do in real life and enjoy both the experience and pains. For this reason, addicts often not simple, then the transition depression, addiction will live. And therefore the only way is always depressed, they say depression through. There are no short cuts. 

Drugs cure sometimes, all it really can provide some relief of symptoms is seen as there is pain. Often, this can create dependency problems, and therefore I should be used carefully and sparingly. functional and necessary to keep you alive, but whether it should be used. 

By using it you break out of these seven steps can help you find the cycle of depression were: 

1) Take care of yourself. 

Self-care is a pillar recovery. Codependents everyone else needs to do in this life and spend too much energy. go without food, sleep, exercise, hobbies, challenging activities, do not form a living sacrifice. This is a way to kill yourself and your individuality. "Being" and experience life, codependants rather than "human doings", and often help rescuing the cycle and everyone of them, isolated, leaves become downhearted and depressed. 

2) Do something. 

"Dysfunction, can cause freezing on doing," when I open up holes and doing nothing is the polar opposite. , And involves learning new things to try to rekindle passion, and excitement about the gift of life, but you should take the first step. Sometimes I thought, "hey, I do something dysfunctional, and I just feel more sadness and anger will fail," but it was just a trap. True, you might fail, but mistakes are always lessons. Freedom to perform your own bad or mediocre results given, is a part of real life. Perhaps you wonder who's actions may lead to unexpected consequences knows? 

3) your "self talk" and be aware of the corruption occurred. 
Negative attitudes I thought the document, promote and feelings about yourself. Is usually very thin and fast, a month to fully realize the awful things to tell yourself you can take. The most depressed people never said, or to entertain thoughts of others so fearful rate, but not about themselves on a regular basis. "" I believe in micro-and re-documenting the lies "internal command" when writing the number of people depression is a source of freedom. Psalms of King David in the Old Testament book of this process is an example. Existing literature on this subject a lot of learning how to identify and replace negative self-scripts you need to make a program. 

4) Limit of depressive symptoms. Aware of your feelings, what you feel hurt, but a pit yourself or "focus on the negative," and does not allow a slide into an obsession. 

5) routing. Surrender your life, your relationships, your money, possessions, your job is-a great starting point. Most of the time error "Let's go obsessions year is a source. Divorce through loss of sense of death, or crisis us nothing to lose can not afford to feel you can do, but the grapes with the famous monkey-like, we have that us capture that go up to the new culture can not find.

6) Socialize, give us the hope of being around others of power and energy. 
Or "self" can be read as the sub to stop. Next to negative self-talk, isolation number 2 in this process is the biggest culprit. Relationships often so painful there were many sources of pain and loss, I would be more isolated to avoid potential problems. But what I have learned to evaluate my relationships; 5-1 scale of this relationship is: 

1.Toxic? 
2. Partially poisoned? 
3. What toxic or nutritious? 
4. Some provide training? 
5. Feeder? 

until you are healthy yourself permission to stay out of relationships with 1s and 2s to give. This may be hard to do with close family or friends, but trust me, when a boundary, in relation to persons who are mentally ill, if you can save your life. 

7) Tell the call of the living God to pray, read psalms. (If you do not believe-but maybe you should try it?) Just have faith because it does not mean that there is spiritual growth. In fact, sometimes people in the church, the last set of spiritual practices related to the dead list. To explore, discover, and spiritual and mental health effects and how you think you may be surprised to being fed. 


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Tuesday, June 16, 2009 

Talk, Trust, feel ... 

repressive dictatorships in society and their governments are trying to control information. They shared the secret manipulator tools: FOG (Fear, Obligation, guilty.) As well as outdoor use tactics. Iran's existing mobile phone texting and social media during the elections is a sample block. 

Unfortunately, the best way to Church in aggressive environments as means to stumble. A pair of generally good, but the means for leaders that will lead to codependent "security." 

I have to work on the church: 

- Video cameras in bathrooms 
- Meeting the secret taperecorders 
- Private meetings 
- Threats, violence, unjust firing, rumor campaigns. 
- Books, movies, music, sound, and ban the people who have different ideas. 

While these are extreme, shocking (even for the parties concerned can) how much you can take initiatives to control the church leadership. 

Usually the more common methods of interpersonal control, and although subtle, indirect signals and long-term undefined "policies and dolled out." 

In this environment, this common for people: 

To speak, write or are afraid of expressing their true thoughts. 
Pretend to have confidence, but secretly became increasingly isolated, and therefore no confidence. 
medium to express a feeling of fear, anger, such as anger or sadness. 

Therefore important for the ministries the health of the principles of recovery. And recovering addicts "just" not to. 

"We are powerless over others" does not look like posters on the church board meetings, but it should be. And healthy environment, it is. 

"You people can not control some things," is extremely difficult for controllers / manipulators to accept. Groups that are investigating all of the people to devote unlimited resources. 

Usually this deep fundamental problems, ranging back to childhood and family dysfunction, then replicated in the family and the church is played out. So you do not get resolved in one night, they pray, and I love to take it nice and direct conflict. 
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Wednesday, May 13, 2009 

2ndJourney Broadcast 

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Monday, May 11, 2009 

Dependence: 

Recent studies show that alcohol and substance abuse or other addictive behavior may occur in less recognizable forms have shown us. Popular phrases such as "OCD", "workaholic", "Control Freak" and "Psycho" are examples. Wonderful and healthy sexual expression in the right context can be an experience. But for many a curse; 

Are you addicted to sex: 

1. If you get a relationship to another? 

2. If the "right" relationship will eventually fill all your needs Do you feel? 

3. Do you use sex as an escape? 

4. Do you feel guilty after sexual experience? 

5. was followed by a potential partner or your sex partner relationship with the intervention? 

6. If sexual invitations or unable to face Do you find sexual material. 

7. We tried to limit or stop the unhealthy sexual behavior, sexual behavior or to check out previously asked for help? Do you want? 

8. If you put yourself or others, in dangerous circumstances do after sex? 

9. Thinking about sex, because if you upset after you complete the task, focus, concentrate on Do you? 

10. Do you spend time watching porn. 

11. If it needs to perform sex acts for the loss of control do you feel? 

12. Have you ever been arrested for sexual crimes? 

If your answer is yes to three or more of these questions, you are encouraged to call the rescue. 

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Wednesday, April 22, 2009 

   
Battling Pornography Addiction Anne Jackson 

- Check out Anne's Blog Flowerdust 

theporntalk at - Parent resources 

- Books and "Dirty Girls web site: new porn addicts" 
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Friday, November 21, 2008 

iSerenity: Online noise wall 

This web site, fans, trains, or looped ongoing background noise was the sound of the waterfall there is a choice. True relaxation or distraction that noisy work environment is filled. If the music plays while you're like me you find most disturbing music is this good tool. Flash slide show, then it is less well done, I prefer the full screen option, and I have the actual video. 
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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 

Spirit Of 80's 

If features 80 classic spiritual music I might want to bookmark if you have not heard microblog's / o RSS: SpiritOfThe80s.tumblr.com 

1) 20 years ago, heard about the strange history. 
2) Non-believers, skeptics, and the unstable types TO'd God, and loved music category to find a dark, sometimes bright, you can add a stiff. 
Three) School of Old Believers and things to chew the cud "Yeah, like what days would say on that day. (Cough)" 
4) O you who believe before, son, is still seen as slightly irrelevant, may require extensive knowledge of musical terms and it's an irony about the comments. 
5) If the rest is just cringe and roll your eyes. 

Do you cover everyone? 
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Monday, October 6, 2008 



Today remind yourself: I agree to help. 


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Wednesday, October 1, 2008 

Re: Form 

I repeat: my house form a conference recently held in Boise Vineyard friend asked me to share their experiences. 

Pastor Tri result of a vision of reform initiatives when first Centaur Media and Jason Robison Chatraw journalists recently donated services, this initiative is chaired by the assigned web communications are being invited to help develop a prospectus for a set. 

I moved and size, after reading the prospectus and the excitement of true courage, only radio broadcasts critical of the media plan, especially in the area seemed a little light. Emily Hopping, then I was invited to participate voluntarily. 

Re: form challenges to the church re: position on environmentalism, human justice, to think and Advent calls us: ure of action. 

Freedom Radio Network Director (Edgewater Broadcasting) radio where the media vision for social justice at last after leaving, my heart is heavy in these areas have been many. I think, could love sin more, I feel the church and head of the snake dance. As a result, I personally challenge was to start withe me. 

I only Georgia, Maryland, California and a grimly serious agenda to fulfill all gathered not only of people came together to learn and take notice. Not that these people were not focused or passionate. Just a guess-fest no cannabis was militant. Collection of good, open plan, managed, and was comfortable. Great food, worship, and a great experience. I was honored and privileged participation. 

This is the number one most important thing in the conference entering the heart chambers in my head: It does not matter how poor it is, others do not have to wait to give. A sample $ 2 offering reached pennies collected from a third world nation, a church about afterwords sources that the money created by the streets, orphans and hungry in the middle placed soup, a big tub to create a purchase has became common children in herds insufficient bid to get met. I am writing this, I honestly homeless, broke, unemployed and am (but irreligious.) And before I have to wait to reach those in need was felt. I realize now that if my heart will be opened, a vessel of God today, it will open doors for me. I do not have to wait. $ 6 will provide a ecologically sound and efficient cooking stoves. $ 6 burger so good that you know what? What a time for a family in extreme poverty if the captain had a cook stove? So once a month? 

Other important items came away puzzle pieces, how to best convert the poor resources management because of the effects of poverty and community in order to end exploitation and human trafficking and slavery was to create vulnerabilities. It is this system of violence and could be overcome. I suffered a direct result of our nation aware of the porn industry and how greedy appetite, and international trade are driving home. Nobody has viewed pornography confess, this "big lie" was that such expression of consent to an adult since they are all virtual, or cyber-loss is never finished. The fact that there are (few have accepted one, it's sane, the career-oriented as sex slaves to get going as almost nothing is.) And every click and every dollar spent on pimps and traffickers fed by an economy is creating children and hunting, this poverty was weak. Sometimes God simply must follow instructions to us, because then we would be able to avoid disobedience and repentance to what is to be great. I just have to hang from my neck to ride millstones can hope for grace. But now I know and therefore do not. 

Consider the case of an anti-slavery abolitionist. Yes No count of exploitation and doing something about it. 

For me today label "activist" in front perfect 'Christianity may be occurred. Brandi Swindell, 'and an agenda for such a fanatical Christian, I agree to be stubborn does not get better marginal preference shirks labels. But if the shoe warned ... Stanton Clinic provides crisis assistance for women in her and she just Beijing that the Chinese communist forces there to pray for abortion to the mother was arrested during the Olympics to reach back. My friend Dennis Mansfield prison or a work out for him in New Hope, which provides half the house began. Range of people standing for others, while moving back and others to seek access. Here re: form is all about.Rob Morris (Chairman Love146.org), the only place in the Bible God's shocked or surprised face of his nation's justice, mercy and humility, and no one is available stand space has been found to be signed. 

OK, but you know he touched your pessimistic political begs questions. (Fair enough time, the most common banner banner of the Republican Congress "were emblazoned with the DRILL".) Liberals' masquerading as reformers is not to win votes? Probably. Conservatives likely to win votes are not joining. But love is no ideology behind this agenda, damns the mouse and human ties and the dark lighting plans that freedom of the oppressed in opening gifts. 

Progress to reach your community, for the environment, regardless of what the world of party membership, you boring murmur dipped to find the sound I think partisan politics. humanity's role in politics Does this matter? Scott Sabin (Executive Director, Floresta) indicates, some developing countries, in some cases almost exclusively. While the small rise on the Jim Jewell (COO Evangelical Environmental Network), as pointed out by the high road looks like most everyone I met about a meeting, but for the sake of the struggle has reached well across the island. It was just-we can make ourselves do what politicians have to stop waiting for. He did come on to love you. Reach. 

Peter Illy (Director Restoring Eden) political attitudes discussed about over-proposed, some of mankind this earth feted spots that feel, and are lost there, natural and healthy will be restored and a while, the other fused to the soil we go to heaven abusively up on the machine to wait.Then, unexpectedly, out of death, disease, news and immorality, Peter week's most refreshing message for me, I tell you leave the focus, God's wonder, slide after slide after, animals, mountains, powerpoint slide showing the land and sky. With that size and volume of his sermons were simple. Was given the world to enjoy. about, puzzle and delight us, to laugh, and fill us with fear and wonder. The people of this world and God will make it good.